Can I Sell Adult Content While in a Serious Relationship?

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Seller Sellers’ Perspective Can I Sell Adult Content While in a Serious Relationship?

Selling adult content while in a serious, monogamous relationship raises many questions as to how my romantic partner and I navigate through the possible challenges it could bring. Things such as jealousy, fear of infidelity and concern for my safety, just to name a few.

My conversative upbringing

Just a little bit about my upbringing: I was raised in a very conservative home. My father was a pastor so the views on modesty and how a woman should behave herself were instilled in me at a very young age. A little bit about my boyfriend's upbringing: He was raised in a more liberal home where things were viewed quite differently when it came to how you dress, talk, and express sexuality…I will just leave it at that.

My opinions on modesty and sexual expression began to change when I suffered a devastating divorce of 22 years. I met my partner about a year later and dating for me was foreign to say the least. I wanted to be happy. Be myself. Find love. Be more confident. I wanted to enjoy life in every way and have freedom. Especially sexually, because even in my long marriage, my husband at the time and I were standoffish to trying new things together sexually because of our conservative upbringing. That in itself hurts a marriage! But more on that another time.

A supportive partner

I started selling adult content to get over my low self-esteem and misconceptions of those who work in or support the adult industry. After a short time with my boyfriend, I decided to mention to him that I sold pictures and videos of a sexual nature. To my surprise, he was supportive!! He even added his pointers on what a lot of men enjoy seeing as far as photos and videos. He discussed how he as a man gets turned on by different clothes, tone of voice, eye contact, clothing choices and even how sometimes the most modest/plain looks drive him crazy! In a good way! Being on ATW has added new and exciting things for he and I to talk about. Let me tell you, some of our conversations are downright hilarious!! Some are also a big turn on!

We are in a monogamous relationship and loyalty is very important to us both. As we discussed our boundaries it became clear how a strong relationship can indeed remain strong even if one is in the adult content selling business.

My romantic partner and I see this as a job. It’s my employment. So that removes a lot of concerns. I offer a service and what I offer is known by my boyfriend. Honesty is KEY! Also, out of respect and love for him, I keep the boundaries that he and I discussed when it comes to what I will do. I do not step over those much-needed boundaries. For instance, I will never meet a client in person, no physical contact will occur (already policy), great care will be taken to protect our privacy, and our personal sexual encounters will not be sold as it’s a special time between us. One thing we have found is that me being in the adult content business has opened our eyes to new things to try that have enhanced our sexual life and pleasure with one another. It enhances what we already have. It doesn’t replace it! We look at it as not only income but kind of like a type of sex toy. Now hear me out, what I mean by that is I not only create adult content for buyers, but I send content to my boyfriend too! It brings the same enjoyment to he and I as it does to those who order it from me! It’s a Sex toy in the sense that it can make our encounters with one another more intense and enjoyable! ENHANCES IT!

ATW has been a positive thing in our relationship! Not to mention it has added to our income! Thank you to all the awesome buyers of ATW 😁

Final takeaways from selling adult content

The longer I sell content and correspond with buyers and other sellers, the more I learn. I take what I learn back to my relationship with my boyfriend, and we have conversations about it. We get closer as we openly discuss these things that many others may find “weird” or “taboo”. We have even explored our own sexuality which has made life together so much fun!!!

Don’t ever think that because a person chooses to do work in the adult industry, that they will have or do have relationship problems. Nor assume that they are single! The most important thing is to remember that each individual has the right to be fulfilled, happy and loved, no matter what industry they are in.

Couples who take the time to talk openly and honestly with one another and have mutual respect for each other's boundaries and emotions, those who support each other in their careers, hobbies, likes, interests and dreams, will remain successful. Without possessive jealousy! Even while adult content is created, shared, sold and enjoyed.