The Submissive Part of Kinks_and_curves

By Kinks_and_curves 2666 views 20th Sep 2021

Seller Dom/sub Sellers’ Perspective The Submissive Part of Kinks_and_curves

By now you are probably aware more of my dominant side as I post and write about it regularly, so I thought I would write this blog to give you an insight into my submissive mindset.

Do you think it is possible to be both dominant and submissive?

Yes, to be honest, I do, a common term for this is switch, however, that is not a term I use to describe myself. I am more dominant than I am submissive that is just how I am naturally but I do have a submissive side of me tucked away. I am not a fan of labels and I think it is definitely possible to enjoy being both. I appreciate some prefer to be one or the other and that is fine. Don’t be afraid to try because you think you have to be one or the other and trying is one of the best ways to learn.

You have to do a bit of digging to find my submission

As I mentioned above I have a submissive side tucked away, I wouldn’t and don’t submit to just anyone and as I have also mentioned I am more naturally dominant. I have had men who call me names and just expect that to be enough and it really isn’t, to dominate someone you have to get inside their head, find out what makes them tick, it has to be built on a relationship of trust and time.

If you want me to submit to you in any way, like fully submit you have to be able to match me, we have to share mutual kinks and it has to be with someone I can open up to and of course, it has to be mutually beneficial, I have to enjoy it as much as you do. I have a submissive streak but there is a difference between submissive traits and allowing myself to totally submit.

Do you enjoy being submissive?

I embrace all parts of myself, my fantasies, kinks, fetishes and turn ons, it is not a case of enjoying one thing more than another. I enjoy anything when it is fun for all involved. I enjoy exploring this side of me as I feel there is much more to explore and much more fun that could be had.

The psychological aspect

I know, I know I talk about this a lot but it is important to me, I personally do think it is such an important element. To get inside someone’s head and understand them makes the whole experience more arousing and exciting, the build up, the pushing of buttons the anticipation. It takes time, effort and trust and if someone is willing to put that effort in then they will unlock so much more from a person. This is why I said I wouldn’t just submit or open up/share my submissive side with anyone they have to show me they are willing to try and understand me and if they can crack me then they are in for a treat!

Building a bond

When you build that bond with someone they are more likely to open up, I am a very open book and a very confident woman but I still need to be able to trust and share with someone. Submission is a gift that someone is sharing with you, they are potentially being at their most vulnerable and need the care and attention that is deserved. Having played with and owned subs myself I see what the difference having that bond makes, so I like to know that I can do/ have the same.

I hope that you have enjoyed reading this and now understand a bit more about me.

Love Kinks! X